Dr. Jess served as Sociologist for Tinder and Bumble, leading research for each of the two companies.
She has been called by The NY Post "the Dr. Ruth of the swipe right generation" and by the Host of This American Life "the Nate Silver of online dating."
Dr. Jess founded Flirtfox after years of receiving messages from complete strangers struggling through the online dating process and asking for help with their relationships.
Many potential mates will spend less than a second scanning through your pictures, bio and messages before swiping or deciding whether to answer. Finding the right words for your bio can be challenging but every word should show off the true you that encourages as many potential matches to swipe right. Your clothing, facial expressions, and the setting of each picture say a lot more about you than you might imagine. Dr. Jess will provide you with actionable personalized feedback and strategies.Free Initial Consultation
Matchmakers were helpful in an age when you couldn't meet anyone outside of your social circle. Online dating has put every possible mate just a swipe away. But these rapid massive changes in how we meet people have come along with brand new challenges like fast evolving social norms and practices. Dr. Jess will help you shine with the best, most irresistible version of the real you.Free Initial Consultation
Dr. Jess will reach out via email to share an initial work plan and schedule the sessions. We recommend you space out sessions by one to two weeks because you'll want time between sessions to update your bio/photos, test out messaging strategies, prep for or do post-mortems on dates, test out new dating platforms and review reading materials.
Your tailored work plan begins. It will be split into modules that are based on specific topics you want to address. You'll have "homework" assignments after each session that range from testing strategies like new opening messages to reading specific articles about subjects like positive psychology and self-presentation. Almost all of our existing clients have said that they have been able to apply key learnings from our dating work to their professional and personal lives.Free Initial Consultation
After you've completed an initial assessment, Dr. Jess will put together a tailored plan that fits your goals and growth opportunities.
See a few sample modules below from our online dating collection.
Bio Evaluation & Editing
Thirst Traps, Peacocking, and X-Factors
Self-Presentation Follow Up
Swiping Purposefully Write Up
Don’ts: Fishing, Flexting
Opening Line Tool
Limited Information Exercise
Stuck in a Textlationship
Slipping into the DMs & Tindstagraming
Getting to the IRL Date
Date Ideas Bank
Ghosting, Breadcrumbing and Curving
The biggest apps may not be the best place for you to find your match. A successful opening line on Tinder is very different from one on Hinge. We're constantly studying the marketplace so you can focus on finding "the one."
Our team has had exclusive access to the biggest data trove on dating in human history. We've conducted surveys with thousands of individuals throughout the globe, run hundreds of focus groups with online daters, and analyzed hundreds of thousands of online dating profiles.
Dr. Jess explains the latest craze — Solomoons have become a pragmatic choice for some couples who don't want to compromise on their post-wedding travel plans.New York Times
Dr. Jess was just incredible. She answered the email of a total stranger with kindness, empathy, and agreed to meet me for coffee. It was the best first “date” I’d had all year. After working with Dr. Jess for six months, my entire online dating experience changed. Online dating had once been a part time job for me but Dr. Jess taught me so many techniques that allowed me to be much more efficient. She also helped me to set boundaries for myself, the men I date, and even encouraged me to swipe right on the great guy I'm currently seeing.
Dr. Jess is awesome. I really had so much fun at every session we had together. She is really sweet but trust me she does not pull any punches. I had been single for a long time and wanted to meet someone but was going about it in all of the wrong ways. Dr. Jess really helped me examine not only how I was approaching online dating but my relationships more broadly. Through working with Dr. Jess, I was able to kick a lot of my old habits to the curb and find women who actually would be good matches for me.
I had not been on a first date in over 28 years. To be honest, I had no clue what I was doing or the difference between any of the apps. I wanted to get back out there but frankly the idea of meeting and talking to a total stranger really concerned me. Dr. Jess walked me through the modules, which took me step by step through everything I could possibly need to know in order to navigate online dating. She understood my hesitations and helped me develop strategies to get myself in a position to meet someone again. I am really grateful to Dr. Jess for helping me find my next chapter.